When Your Mom Becomes Your Landlord
“When it comes to the rent versus buy debate, I think buying is better than renting. However, I am incredibly biased since I share the cost of living with my brother and cousin. We live in a house my mom purchased 18+ years ago”
-Peerless Money Mentor
Rent vs. Buy Discussion
A couple weeks ago, Financial Samurai posted an article stating why real estates will always be more desirable than stocks. I shared the article with my closest friends and asked for their thoughts on the topic. We have financial conversations often in our GroupMe chat. From the wedding industry being a cash cow to the high salaries of coaching assistants, we discuss a range of topics. Today the topic of conversation just happen to be housing!
The first friend who read the article pointed out that Financial Samurai failed to mention the ongoing cost of maintaining a home. Which was true but the article was written to tout the pros of home ownership, not the cons!
My second friend had this to say after reading, “You would be paying much more for housing if your mom chose to be a renter.” He then pointed to point #10 in the article that is extremely relevant. Here is what Sam wrote:
“All the people who are anti-housing could have been saved if their parents decided to invest in real estate 30 years ago. Life is so much easier once housing is cheap or free. If you’re willing to provide an education for your children, perhaps you should also be willing to provide housing just in case they need it.“
The second friend had a valid point. How could I argue against home ownership, while enjoying the benefits of it? While I do not own a home, I stay in a house my mom purchased my freshman year in high school. A purchase that was made almost 18 years ago.
So you’re probably wondering, “How did you end up back at your mom’s house?” You are 31. “Shouldn’t you be out on your own? Yes, I should but let me tell you how this happened!
How My Mom Became My Landlord
When I was an active member of Broke Phi Broke, my brother reached out to me to ask if I would consider moving back to the family home. He stayed by himself in the family house my mom kept after remarrying.
My ex fiancee had left me and I could no longer afford to pay the rent by myself once the lease ended.
The amount of debt I had placed a stranglehold on my cash flow. A grip that has loosened somewhat but remains present today.
Initially I balked at his offer. I told my mom and him that I did not need their help. My master plan was to live out of my car. For showering and switching clothes, I would use my Planet Fitness membership.
While the idea seemed brilliant to me, my family thought otherwise. After some tough talk from moms, I opened up to the idea.
My mom is brutally honest, she shoots straight, without any chaser. She told me, “I did not raise no damn fool. This is a chance for you to rebuild!”
After dealing with issues of pride, I decided to accept the offer. When my apartment lease expired, I would reluctantly move back into my childhood home.
It took some adjusting since I had been living by myself for six months. Things like the dishes not being washed irritated me. Also, I missed my privacy and being able to do what I wanted.
My mom routinely visited to check on her investment. When the house was not clean, she would threaten to evict us! Fortunately, for us, she never followed through!
In retrospect, I now know these things were worth giving up. The benefits of me sharing the living cost with a sibling, far outweighed the costs.
Benefits of a Tailwind
Moving back home with my brother (and now cousin also) has been extremely helpful in my financial journey. Recently I did a writing assignment for Business Insider sharing all my expenses.
My share of the rent is $300 a month. Someone from Business Insider told me she thought it was an error at first 🙂
Luckily for me it is not an error! The mortgage on my mother’s four bed room house in Baker, Louisiana is $633 a month. The rent my cousin, brother, and I pay covers that expense. It is a win/win for all of us!
If you are wondering how much we pay in utilities, the cost ranges from $50-$100 a month. The electricity bill goes up in the summer.
Mom, thanks for making the decision to invest in real estate 18+ years ago. I know that we do not always see eye to eye but I love you. You taught me how to read and write.
You recently pointed out that I would not be able to write a Rockstar post if it were not for you. I cannot refute that!
Most importantly, thanks for giving me the gift of life. Happy Mother’s Day!
“And there’s no way I can pay you back
But my plan is to show you that I understand
You are appreciated”
*I was told the assignment I did for Business Insider will be published early next week!*
- Would you move in with a sibling to lower your housing expense?
- What is your living situation? Do you house hack?
- What do you think about home ownership?
- Do you own any real estate?
My name is Jerry, and I am just a personal finance nerd who writes from a bottom to top perspective. I believe anyone can improve their finances by adopting certain habits/strategies taught by the financial independence community.
In my popular post From Broke Phi Broke to Financially Woke I wrote, “While I am not 100% debt free yet, I hope the financial independence community welcomes me with open arms.”
Since writing that article, the financial independence community has embraced me as one of their own. I have even gotten a chance to do some amazing things like write for Business Insider.
Well, enough about me. I want to hear from you. Feel free to reach out to tell me your million dollar secrets 🙂